PLAN TO MARRY A MUSLIM
There is nothing more personally degrading to a woman and her position in society than that imposed upon her in a male dominated Islamic culture. Her human dignity is stripped away, along with her personal freedoms.
Women born into an Islamic family live in fear and isolation. Who they marry, where they live, who they associate with, even their education, or lack thereof is controlled by men. And, she has been lied to in regard to the freedoms Christian women have, so she will not seek outside her religion.
When engaged to a Man of the Muslim religion, He will make any promise to you necessary to reel you in. He may even give you a wedding to remember. But, once you’ve become his wife, he will own you. You will forfeit your freedoms, dignity as a woman, and your soul to his domination. When the children come, he will take ownership of the children, with the understanding that they will become Muslim. No discussion.
Don’t let romance and promises rule your emotions … once you marry him, there is no turning back.
The purpose of this paper is to deal with issues that enslave women of the Muslim religion, and compare it with the freedoms afforded her in the Christian faith. Upon reading this work, we hope you will terminate any plans in going further with this marriage, and in doing so, will remove yourself from a life that will completely strip you of your personhood.
Please read on.
LET’S LOOK AT ISLAM FIRST:
Women are second class beings, often ranking just above cattle. They are dominated by men from birth to death. Below are some quotes from an individual who, leaving the Islamic religion, found freedom and dignity.
“In addition to the actual laws, a whole array of taboos and social restrictions on women were created to help men control their female flock and thus their honor.”!
“It is a supreme irony that in the world of the Muslim man, the female in his family is the one object over which he may have power.” i
“Women have no rights in Islamic societies. Women are not permitted to get an education. They are not allowed to leave the house or work without a male guardian’s written approval.’” i
“Growing up female in an Arab culture was fraught with complications and contradictions. The whole society imposed very strict standards - no dating, no partying, no mixing with boys, and, above all, no sex outside of marriage. Dating or any kind of relationship—casual or otherwise—between men and women who are not related was simply forbidden.” i
“The Arabic word ‘harim’ describes women and ‘hormah’ is singular for a woman; the word’s literal meaning is quite telling - it means “prohibited,” “forbidden,” or “untouchable.” A woman’s physical appearance is a public statement. She is covered and concealed, her virginity is subject to public verification, she suffers ritual female genital mutilation (female circumcision), she is prohibited from exercising most rights enjoyed by Muslim men, and is shackled by sharia (Islamic civil law). Adding insult to injury, she suffers the humiliation of polygamy, a privilege reserved for men.” i
“It’s in fact quite unfair when you think about it; that men’s respect in society could be more dependent on the sexual behavior of his sisters, mothers, wives, or daughters than on their own personal behavior. Thus men feel compelled to monitor the way their women dress, whom they communicate with, who visits their home, and all their comings and goings. It also sets up another case of Muslim culture allowing men to avoid personal responsibility by blaming others.” i
Sharia closes all doors for women who seek to live an independent lifestyle. ‘Beit el taa’, meaning “house of obedience,” i
Under that law, a man can be given permission by the court to sequester his wife at home as punishment for disobedience. i
These and many other testimonies are borne by women who, upon becoming Christians, left the Muslim religion, finding freedom from bondage, some even under the threat of death by family members.
The husband totally dominates the wife, she having no authority in the marriage. Let me begin with a few quotes again from a woman who has experience in this subject.
“In the Muslim world, most marriages are arrangements between families. This is simply how you get married. Muslim women have very few choices when it comes to marriage as compared to Western women. We are deprived of dating, falling in love, and even innocent communication with boys.” i
Under Islamic law, all the husband has to do to get a divorce is repeat the phrase “I divorce you” three times. A woman may ask or beg her husband to divorce her, but she cannot do it herself. He must grant the divorce.
“In Egypt, domestic abuse of women and children is common but never reported.” i
“At all levels of Islamic society, the sharia laws turn the relation- ship between husband and wife from that of partners to one of slave and master. …
… Very often these maids would show me their bruises from beatings they were subjected to. A notorious verse in the Koran, Surah 4:34, advises Muslim husbands with regard to wives from whom they fear “rebellion,” to admonish them, abstain from lying with them, and beat them—‘wa-dribuwhunna’. Because of that verse in the Koran, many Muslim men feel that it is within their legal and religious right to beat their wives.” i
Men can commit adultery without personal responsibility. It’s called polygamy. Men can have four wives, but women cannot have more than one husband. She can never feel secure in her marriage because he can be unfaithful anytime he desires. Besides having four wives, he can have female slaves (commit rape) and have prostitutes (temporary wives) at will.
“Muslim women, as a result of all the roadblocks, end up having no moral pressure or political muscle to work together to make polygamy unacceptable. Expressing disagreement or any attempts at change are viewed as subversive behavior and outright attacks on Islam. And, of course, fear of polygamy makes it impossible for a wife to form a bond of trust with her husband.” i
“Another block on women’s freedom is their limited choice in marriage. Muslim men have the right to marry non-Muslim and foreign women. Muslim women have no such right and can marry only Muslim men.” i
“Beside the three types of marriage and the technical allowance of up to four wives, the Muslim concept of ma ‘malakat aymanabum’ permits men to have sex outside of marriage with women he “owns” such as slaves. In that case a woman has to tolerate sex against her will by a man who considers her his property.” i
“The same culture that allows Muslim men many outlet for sex; even forced sex, tacitly permits honor killing of women and, in some countries, death by stoning for women who have sex outside of marriage. Compare two cases: a man who forces sex on his maid and an unmarried woman caught sleeping with her lover. In both cases, sex outside of marriage has occurred, but one is not punished under Islamic law and the other is very severely punished. A review of the stoning cases in hard-line Muslim states will show that it is choice, not the sex act itself, that brings a death penalty. Choice is solely a man’s prerogative. A woman can be forced into a slave-master sexual relationship—that is not considered against the law. But should a woman exercise control over her body, should she choose to have sex, and, even worse, choose her partner, she has committed a sin punishable by death. Islamic laws by design give women very little control over their bodies and their sexual and marital relationships, perpetuating the epidemic of humiliation and degradation of Muslim women.” i
“A third form is a temporary marriage contract called ‘mutaa marriage’, literally meaning ‘“pleasure marriage.”’ Technically, it is available to both married men and single women, but in practice it is an action initiated by men. This form of marriage, also usually done in secrecy, is for the express purpose of having sex, often for a one-night stand. Under this form of marriage, men can satisfy their lust over any woman for one night, usually in exchange for money (calling it a dowry), and still feel that it is acceptable in the eyes of God. This practice usually boils down to little more than legalized prostitution. Under Islamic law, men have the freedom and many choices to actually legally cheat on their wives, while wives are unable to get a divorce or have a relationship, even when their husband has left them.” i
“There is a new trend of Muslim men marrying non-Muslim women for the purpose of spreading Islam. Muslim women living in the West who marry a Western Christian man must hide that fact from the Muslim community, especially when they visit the old country. According to Islam, these women are no longer Muslims and could be punished harshly. Without the protection of Western society, these women could even be killed in their own countries for marrying non-Muslims. While Muslim men are rewarded for marrying Christian and foreign women for doing a good deed by spreading Islam, Muslim women are denied the same right. Muslim women must remain loyal to Muslim men and society even if at the expense of never finding a husband.” i
After death, men are promised seventy-two virgins. A woman will have to fulfill the sexual desires of the men, along with seventy-one other women.
“Even after death, in the paradise of Islam, women are given the short end of the stick. The idea of heaven is a lustful man’s dream and a woman’s nightmare. Since men who die as ‘shahid’ are promised seventy-two virgins, a woman in Islam’s heaven is supposed to be servicing men’s sensual desires together with about seventy-one other women.” i
If one does the math, they will see a problem with this. They will see this to be the lie that it is:
10,000,000 men (a conservative number) X 72 virgins = 720,000,000.
That’s seven hundred twenty million virgins. Finding that many virgins, much less that many women, will be quite a task.
“… many young women, even though they are secular, chose to cover their heads simply to avoid being looked upon as whores or be subject to rape.” i
“The Muslim north in Sudan does enslave the Christian south and
thus Sudanese Christian women are frequently forced by Muslim men into having
sex. Non-Muslim women living in majority-Muslim countries have very few laws to
protect them.” i
It is beyond my imagination that any woman would willingly subject herself and her future children to this life. It is my hope, that you are at least rethinking this again, if not completely abandoning the idea.
NOW LET’S COMPARE THE ABOVE WITH HOW WOMEN ARE VIEWED IN CHRISTIANITY: *
I’ll make this brief. In the Christian faith,
· Women are equal to men
“There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free man, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” (Galatians 3:28)
· Women and men are equal in marriage based on mutual love of each other.
“So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself;” (Ephesians 5:28)
“… encourage the young women to love their husbands …” (Titus 2:4)
· Domestic violence is not acceptable, in any form
“… with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” (Ephesians 4:2-3)
· Sexual immorality is not acceptable for men or women. Such behavior is called fornication, and is not to be the practice of either.
“But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints;” (Ephesians 5:3)
· Sex outside of marriage is NOT acceptable. It is called adultery.
"You shall not commit adultery.” (Exodus 20:14)
"You have heard that it was said to those of old, 'YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY.' But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:27-28)
· Marriage is monogamous, that is one husband for one wife.
“A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, temperate, sober-minded, of good behavior, hospitable, able to teach;…” (1 Timothy 3:2)
“… if a man is blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of dissipation or insubordination.” (Titus 1:6)
· In heaven, there is neither marriage nor sex between men and women. Marriage and the sexual union are in this life only. Pro-creation (having babies) will not occur in Heaven.
“For when they rise from the dead, they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven.” (Mark 12:25)
“But those who are counted worthy to attain that age, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry nor are given in marriage …” (Luke 20:35)
WHY NOT JUST TURN TO THE TRUTH
Here is the Truth. Please read it completely before you reject it. It can have eternal consequences for you. If you are a woman of the Islamic religion, you can be freed from the shackles that bind you. If you are a woman contemplating converting to Islam, please be aware that you will be selling your eternal soul to a false religion, removing yourself from the very saving grace offered to you through Jesus Christ.
Question – How does one become a Christian?
Some truths first:
· Everyone sins - for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, (Romans 3:23)
· The consequence of our sin is death - For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 6:23)
· Jesus Christ died on the cross for our sins - … Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures … (1 Corinthians 15:3)
· The Lord wants us to repent of our sins - The Lord is … not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance. (2 Peter 3:9)
· Those who put their faith in Jesus Christ will gain eternal life - For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. (John 3:16)
Get alone with God and in prayer to the following:
1. Confess that you are a sinner and that you repent of your sins.
2. By faith, receive Jesus Christ’s death on the cross as payment for your sins.
3. Invite Jesus Christ into your heart and receive Him as your personal Lord and Savior.
4. Thank Him for saving you and for giving you eternal life.
If you prayed with a sincere heart conviction, you have been saved, based on God’s unchangeable promise. He has recreated you in Christ Jesus, all things have become new.
· Find a local Bible believing church to attend if possible.
· If you have access to one, begin reading the Bible, starting in the New Testament.
· E-mail us (email@example.com) and let us know of your decision, and how we can help you.
God bless you in your life’s journey with Him … to His glory!
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* All Bible references are from the New King James Version (NKJV) unless otherwise noted.
i Nonie Darwish, Now They Call Me Infidel, Sentinel, 2006